As I said in my previous video in 2019 I'm going to be sprinkling some videos in my regular lineup that are designed to be more motivational and inspirational. I know how difficult it is as you are going through a custody case and it's really easy to get pulled down by the heaviness and emotions of it.
Going through a custody case takes it's toll on you emotionally, physically and on your pocketbook. If I'm having a bad day and someone gives me a compliment or says something nice to me and it brings me up, I want to do the same for you.
Let's talk about personal responsibility. As an attorney who has been practicing law for over 20 years and family law for exactly 20 years, it's frustrating to see people come into my office and blame everyone around them for the circumstance they find themselves in.
As you go through your custody case I think it's really important for you to take a look at yourself and maybe see where you've gone wrong in the past to create the situation that you're in. While other people may have played a part in your situation, a lot of it has to do with you.
If you can look at yourself and see what your role was and commit to yourself that you're going to do better or your'e going to fix those things that led you to where you are, I think that down the road you'll find yourself in a much better place.
When you blame other people you a lot of controlling into their hands. You allow yourself to their victim. It's a lot more empowering if you take control over your life and say yes I've done x, y or z and that's how I got where I got but I'm committed to changing my life and moving forward this is what I'm going to do.
Take personal responsibility for your situation. Keep blaming to a minimum. In my office it really raises red flags to me when somebody comes into my office and they have to talk about what everybody else did wrong and they have nothing to say about themselves.
It's going to help you become a better person and take control of your life and it's going to take you out of the role of being the victim.
Oftentimes, one parent's behavior interferes with the other parent's relationship with the kids. Some people go so far as to call this behavior "parental alienation."
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